The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory
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Amours plurielles, or polyamory, is the practice of having more than one romantic relationship at a time, sexual or not. Françoise Simpère, a French authority on polyamory—the French are particularly at ease with open relationships—provides new perspectives for couples willing to be faithful to, but not exclusive with, each other. She guides such couples, and those who simply wish to understand, in an exploration of new emotional, sexual, and intellectual mores that is entertaining yet technically well grounded.
Simpère first discusses polyamory and what it involves, describing the practices that make it ethically and emotionally sustainable. She proposes a few rules and suggestions on how to keep the love and trust of one’s partner while successfully navigating polyamory and enjoying the infinite possibilities offered by open relationships. The second section, designed on the model of French “savoir-vivre” guides, is a resource on the art and etiquette of poly-dating, covering a range of often-asked questions: Should we use a calendar? How can I prioritize time between two lovers? Can I ask my husband to babysit while I’m out? How can I judge the emotional stability of potential lovers?
Françoise Simpère : A journalist and a novelist, Françoise Simpère is a prolific author of erotic novels and self-help books. An expert on polyamorous relationships, she has written about her experience in Aimer plusieurs hommes (To Love Several Men, Pocket, 2004). She is also the main character in a Canadian 52-minute documentary made in 2007 by Martine Asselin called La grande amoureuse (The Great Lover). She has been happily married for 30 years, has two children, and has had a dozen lovers.